How to Increase Sensation During Intercourse & Enhance Orgasm Using Kegel Balls

The Great British Sexpert’s beginners Kegel kit on offer for just £9.99

Kegel Balls (Ben-Wa balls) What are They and Why you Should use Them

Kegel balls, also known as Ben-Wa balls, are balls that are inserted into the vaginal canal to help with pelvic floor exercises. Traditionally they were invented by Japanese women and were made of hollow brass balls, with one weighted down. 

Modern balls are made from a variety of materials from stone, stainless steel to glass and silicone. They come in a variety of sizes and weights. The idea being you squeeze your pelvic floors around the balls to work the muscles and increase strength. Some have a string or long strip to pull to get them out, others you push out. Beginners are best to use silicone balls as they are easier to hold inside.

Benefits

  • Increased sensation during intercourse
  • Enhanced orgasm due to increased blood flow
  • More likely to experience multiple orgasms
  • Ability to hold ‘him’ tighter inside you
  • Pulls things back into place after childbirth
  • Prepares your body for childbirth 
  • Helps prevent incontinence later in life 
  • No more accidents when you laugh too hard!

How to use them

  1. Always wash the balls thoroughly before and after use be sure to clean any joins and take any parts apart that can be removed. If you have a toy cleaner use that to disinfect it. Always use plenty of water based lubrication.
  2. Lie on your back in a comfortable relaxed position and insert one ball at a time. If there is a string attached to one, insert this one last. 
  3. Squeeze as though you are trying to stop a pee. Visualise pulling everything upwards, and when you think you can’t squeeze any more, squeeze that extra little bit. If you are in doubt as to whether you are doing it right – practice when you are having a pee, stopping and starting the flow. You should feel your anus tightening too.
  4. Try doing 10 quick pull up and releases, then 10 pull up and hold for 10 seconds and release. Doing this 3 times a day will have you well on your way. The Squeezy app will remind you and guide you through this sequence.
  5. You may want to go about your daily business, and that’s fine, you don’t need to be lying down to work your pelvic floors you can be doing your ironing or even out shopping! Some women even find the sensation of having the balls jiggling around quite pleasurable.
  6. To remove them if they have a string lie down as you did before and gently find the string to remove. If there’s no string you might find it easier to squat and push them out. 
  7. It’s best to keep them in a zip lock bag after they have been cleaned. 

You may feel you want to experiment with different types of balls once you’ve got the hang of it. Expect to pay from £8.99 for basic beginners balls to up to £80.00 for more advanced. 

You can buy a beginners set from me today for just £9.99. The silicone kegel balls come in a red felt bag, with sex toy cleaner spray, wipes, condoms, lubrication samples, and a guide on how to use them.

To buy these or for help deciding which ones will work best for you and to purchase contact me directly  rebecca@rebeccadakin.com

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Break up January is here. Is your relationship safe?

Breakup January Divorce

Bitterly cold temperatures aren’t the only thing frosty about January and February. For many New Year = new partner! January is widely known as the “break-up” month because in relationships and marriages more couples split up then than at any other time of the year.

In particular divorce solicitors have named 3rd January divorce day and it is the first two months of the year that are their most busiest.

So how does one make sure that their relationship doesn’t end up as one of New Years fatalities?

The answer is keeping that connection and making sure the intimacy side of the relationship hasn’t waned after the busyness of Christmas and New Year.

That’s where I come in. I have been in the sex industry for over 20 years, 10 of those were spent working as an escort, during which time I learnt a lot about sexually pleasing both men and women. I am the author of two books The Girlfriend Experience and 101 Sex Tips.

5 Intimacy Tips for keeping things hot when the temperatures drop

1. Always make time for cuddles. All that body heat will make you feel warm and fuzzy
2. Flirt with your partner – it will make you both feel good
3. Go to bed when the kids go to bed or if you don’t have any take the opportunity for an early night and keep warm under the covers getting up to mischief
4. Massage warms your body up for both parties. Try a body to body massage with some warm massage candle oil
5. Lots of passionate kissing will keep the desire burning

There are more of my tips in my 101 Sex Tips book, and I’m also running a workshop on the 26th January in Nottingham where I will be teaching a small group of 10 women a variety of ‘tricks of the sex trade’ and sexual advice and tips on how to keep things spicy in the bedroom.

Contact me today to secure your place it’s just £20.00 for a 2 hour workshop.

Some of the things I teach with my flipchart and pointer are…

 *   Mild Bondage techniques designed to enhance and elongate foreplay
 *   Tips on masturbation for her and him
 *   Empowerment in the bedroom
 *   How to use sensory play to excite and tease

Quotes from ladies that have attended my classes:

“Think of an Ann Summers party but classy and educational as well as fun”

“Every modern, independent woman should attend one of Rebecca’s events which empower women of all ages”

“I’m shy and prudish and was very unsure what to expect however Rebecca completely put me at ease and made the subject of sex completely comfortable, accessible and fun”

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Are we failing the new generation of children and young adults with the lack of factual information about sex, intimacy and relationships? In my opinion, absolutely! 

Please call into the show or tweet me @lbc @gbsexpert with your questions and opinions. 

Children are being educated by porn as young as 8 years old. We need to counteract the message they are receiving about sex from porn.

Aside from teaching children about their bodies and those of the opposite sex and  how to embrace and love their bodies instead of wanting to change or ‘enhance’ them, there’s also gender, sexuality issues, and and the bullying that can happen with people that don’t fit what many people view as socially acceptable. 

For me sex education it’s part of a much bigger picture – it’s about self esteem, self worth, confidence building, recognising Body dysmorphia and other mental health conditions that can affect how people view themselves and how they form relationships.

Also the education should be about looking at what constitutes as a healthy relationship, and how to avoid toxic relationships and noticing the signs of mental and physical abuse. 

There is no reason why Sex education in this wider scope can’t be brought into primary schools. 

Catch the show live stream here: 

http://www.lbc.co.uk/radio/presenters/lucy-beresford/

Sex education with Lucy Beresford Lbc radio
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Apologies

The lack of recent posts is due to not having website access due to huge problems with my web designers Spark Agency, who have left me in the lurch with an incomplete website, after I paid in full for a website that has been dragging on for almost a year. This caused me a huge amount of stress and distress, throughout my pregnancy. (I have been blessed with a beautiful baby girl Evie-Rae who is 12 weeks old 🙂 There are missing images, and pages, so I do apologise for the unprofessional look and any inconvenience caused. I will hopefully find someone reliable in the New Year to complete the website. In the meantime the boutique is working just missing images, so there is still time to get your sexy stuff before Christmas  😉 

Sean Price’s (Selene Group) company – Web designers to avoid!
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Rare Opportunity Today to do something that will make you feel amazing…

If you’re facing some challenges in your life right now, and are struggling physically and emotionally may I recommend you take the opportunity today or tomorrow to go and see this wonderful lady at East Bridgford Hill Hall in Nottingham

https://www.facebook.com/Awakening-the-Sacred-Feminine-141…/

I had the most wonderful experience with her after a difficult relationship break up, and she gave me an enormous sense of well being and relief. Hence why I will never cease to sing the praises of this lady. This incredible lady is the one organising the Bali retreat I will be embarking on next month.

She’s over from Sweden and only here until tomorrow afternoon. If you’re interested to see her send me a an email or give me a call.

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International Womens Day

Regardless of gender we all have both Masculine and Feminine energy and it’s important that we understand and utilise both to enable us to experience true self acceptance, love and lasting happiness. In a world where many women can have it all – the successful career, family and social life, and manage or choose to become single mothers some running businesses or working at the same time, we have really honed our masculine side however the Feminine energy is getting lost.

The Divine Feminine is all about embracing and nurturing our female energy. However what is it and how do we do that?

Divine Feminine energy represents these aspects within the universe: life, renewal, birth, openness, restoration, love, nurturing, insight, wisdom, intuition, understanding, healing, receptivity, motherhood, the moon, sensuality and harmony. We need to connect to all those areas within ourselves to experience and utilise our Divine Feminine.

Here are 10 ways to connect with your Divine Feminine:

  1. Explore perception of womanhood in your culture and from your personal experience
  2. Cultivate love, compassion, forgiveness and openness towards self and others
  3. Meditate specifically to connect with your Divine Feminine. There are various meditations on You Tube for you to try
  4. Embrace, love and accept your body wholly and completely
  5. Explore if you have any resistance to being female on a spiritual, physical and mental level and with regards to how societies beliefs and any social conditioning
  6. Listen to your emotions, experience them and examine them. Get in touch with your intuition. Close down external distractions designed to numb you. For example T.V.
  7. Examine your perception of motherhood and your relationship with your mother. If there is resentment and anger there this will block your Feminine energy. Total forgiveness is essential and compassion helps facilitate this.
  8. Explore your sensuality – know your body get in tune with it. Know how you like to be touched. Connect intimately in mind and body with yourself and your partner. Communicate, and explore without shame or guilt.
  9. Collaborate with other women professionally and personally. Unite and explore how you can help each other grow.
  10. Get in touch with your creative side – whether it is through art, dance or written word


Our Divine energy does not need to be cultivated or created it is the core of our very being it’s just lost and obscured by negative thoughts, beliefs, actions and a lack of awareness.

To allow it to flourish we need to let go of all the negative beliefs and emotions attached to womanhood only then can we be truly free. It’s time to embrace our Divine Feminine and invite it to shine out of every pore of our being!

If you’re interested to find out more then there is an incredible, inspirational woman championing this mission Sophia Magdelena she is based in Sweden however arranges workshops and retreats worldwide. I will be joining her in Bali next month to explore all of the above and rid myself of any blockages. There are still a few spaces left for anyone interested in this empowering life transforming journey, so if you want to know more get in touch with me today 🙂

Wishing all women a very happy International Women’s Day. You are all loved and stronger than you know xo

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X Rated Ladies Night 2nd March – Ladies contact me today to secure your place

What started as an intimate group of ladies at my house has now moved to a full blown event to accomodate all the ladies wanting to come. The places are limited. The next one is to be held in Nottingham this Thursday 2nd March 7.30-9.30 pm. Only 9 spaces left!

If you’re interested to find out more, send me an email rebecca@rebeccadakin.com

I will also be demonstrating the full range of Satisfyers, the Satisfyer 2, Satisfyer Pro Penguin, Satisfyer Pro Delux and the Satisfyer Pro 2. Ladies you do not want to miss this. Award winning breakthrough clitoral stimulators using pressure air. Multiple orgasms guarenteed 😉

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Notts TV 6.30 Show tonight

I’m talking dating, mating and relating on Notts TV 6.30 show. What to do for nights in, nights out, and romantic gifts on Valentines day. No I didn’t try and plug any sex toys hehehe

Watch it or catch up on Demand here: https://nottstv.com/

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New Series of Sex Pod starts weekly tonight – 5 Star 10pm or catch it online

Tonight myself and other Sex Experts face a new batch of youngsters and as we give them open and frank sex advice and answer all their questions about sex. If you haven’t seen it yet, then do have a watch. It’s aimed at 18-25 year olds and covers both straight and gay/lesbian sex advice, however everyone can learn something. There are explicit sex demonstrations (check out the video here for an idea of what to expect featuring he stunning Chloe Davis) so you actually get to see our advice in action 😉 This is a ground breaking sex education show like no other. If you miss it you can catch up online here: http://www.channel5.com/show/sex-pod

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