Bitterly cold temperatures aren’t the only thing frosty about January and February. For many New Year = new partner! January is widely known as the “break-up” month because in relationships and marriages more couples split up then than at any other time of the year.
In particular divorce solicitors have named 3rd January divorce day and it is the first two months of the year that are their most busiest.
So how does one make sure that their relationship doesn’t end up as one of New Years fatalities?
The answer is keeping that connection and making sure the intimacy side of the relationship hasn’t waned after the busyness of Christmas and New Year.
That’s where I come in. I have been in the sex industry for over 20 years, 10 of those were spent working as an escort, during which time I learnt a lot about sexually pleasing both men and women. I am the author of two books The Girlfriend Experience and 101 Sex Tips.
5 Intimacy Tips for keeping things hot when the temperatures drop
1. Always make time for cuddles. All that body heat will make you feel warm and fuzzy
2. Flirt with your partner – it will make you both feel good
3. Go to bed when the kids go to bed or if you don’t have any take the opportunity for an early night and keep warm under the covers getting up to mischief
4. Massage warms your body up for both parties. Try a body to body massage with some warm massage candle oil
5. Lots of passionate kissing will keep the desire burning
There are more of my tips in my 101 Sex Tips book, and I’m also running a workshop on the 26th January in Nottingham where I will be teaching a small group of 10 women a variety of ‘tricks of the sex trade’ and sexual advice and tips on how to keep things spicy in the bedroom.
Contact me today to secure your place it’s just £20.00 for a 2 hour workshop.
Some of the things I teach with my flipchart and pointer are…
* Mild Bondage techniques designed to enhance and elongate foreplay
* Tips on masturbation for her and him
* Empowerment in the bedroom
* How to use sensory play to excite and tease
Quotes from ladies that have attended my classes:
“Think of an Ann Summers party but classy and educational as well as fun”
“Every modern, independent woman should attend one of Rebecca’s events which empower women of all ages”
“I’m shy and prudish and was very unsure what to expect however Rebecca completely put me at ease and made the subject of sex completely comfortable, accessible and fun”
If you’re facing some challenges in your life right now, and are struggling physically and emotionally may I recommend you take the opportunity today or tomorrow to go and see this wonderful lady at East Bridgford Hill Hall in Nottingham
I had the most wonderful experience with her after a difficult relationship break up, and she gave me an enormous sense of well being and relief. Hence why I will never cease to sing the praises of this lady. This incredible lady is the one organising the Bali retreat I will be embarking on next month.
She’s over from Sweden and only here until tomorrow afternoon. If you’re interested to see her send me a an email or give me a call.
Regardless of gender we all have both Masculine and Feminine energy and it’s important that we understand and utilise both to enable us to experience true self acceptance, love and lasting happiness. In a world where many women can have it all – the successful career, family and social life, and manage or choose to become single mothers some running businesses or working at the same time, we have really honed our masculine side however the Feminine energy is getting lost.
The Divine Feminine is all about embracing and nurturing our female energy. However what is it and how do we do that?
Divine Feminine energy represents these aspects within the universe: life, renewal, birth, openness, restoration, love, nurturing, insight, wisdom, intuition, understanding, healing, receptivity, motherhood, the moon, sensuality and harmony. We need to connect to all those areas within ourselves to experience and utilise our Divine Feminine.
Here are 10 ways to connect with your Divine Feminine:
Explore perception of womanhood in your culture and from your personal experience
Cultivate love, compassion, forgiveness and openness towards self and others
Meditate specifically to connect with your Divine Feminine. There are various meditations on You Tube for you to try
Embrace, love and accept your body wholly and completely
Explore if you have any resistance to being female on a spiritual, physical and mental level and with regards to how societies beliefs and any social conditioning
Listen to your emotions, experience them and examine them. Get in touch with your intuition. Close down external distractions designed to numb you. For example T.V.
Examine your perception of motherhood and your relationship with your mother. If there is resentment and anger there this will block your Feminine energy. Total forgiveness is essential and compassion helps facilitate this.
Explore your sensuality – know your body get in tune with it. Know how you like to be touched. Connect intimately in mind and body with yourself and your partner. Communicate, and explore without shame or guilt.
Collaborate with other women professionally and personally. Unite and explore how you can help each other grow.
Get in touch with your creative side – whether it is through art, dance or written word
Our Divine energy does not need to be cultivated or created it is the core of our very being it’s just lost and obscured by negative thoughts, beliefs, actions and a lack of awareness.
To allow it to flourish we need to let go of all the negative beliefs and emotions attached to womanhood only then can we be truly free. It’s time to embrace our Divine Feminine and invite it to shine out of every pore of our being!
If you’re interested to find out more then there is an incredible, inspirational woman championing this mission Sophia Magdelena she is based in Sweden however arranges workshops and retreats worldwide. I will be joining her in Bali next month to explore all of the above and rid myself of any blockages. There are still a few spaces left for anyone interested in this empowering life transforming journey, so if you want to know more get in touch with me today 🙂
Wishing all women a very happy International Women’s Day. You are all loved and stronger than you know xo
If you’re over 18 then the only list you wanna be on this Christmas is Santa’s naughty list!
I’ve been gathering and testing new products this week for my boutique, and there’s some very exciting new toys and sexy stuff.
Here are my 12 days of Christmas, 12 gift ideas for those who enjoy some adult fun.
Christmas is an extremely stressful time of year, so it is super important to make sure that you keep up the intimacy, flirting and sex going when you get the opportunity. Sex is a stress buster! And if you’re single this Christmas then there is no reason why you shouldn’t be having lots of fun too 😉
If you want to get your hands on any of the products I have mentioned in the video then contact me today as i’m back at the warehouse Thursday 15th picking up more orders.
Vibrators, books, games, love potions, lubes and bondage bits have all made my top 12 naughty gift ideas. Watch the video to find out more and find out about your special Christmas offer 🙂
Last week I unleashed my new talk on Nottingham City’s Women’s Institute ladies. It was their most successful night of the year so far with a record turn out of over 30 ladies, of all ages from 21 to 70! They were literally queuing out of the door.
There’s a misconception that all the Women’s Institute do is make jam and cakes and drink tea. I can assure you this wasn’t the case; whilst we did have a delicious array of cakes, we also quaffed boozy Cosmopolitans whilst I talked about sex: losing my virginity, masturbation, orgasm and my decade as an escort!
The W.I. are very supportive of sex workers, which goes to show what an open minded bunch of women they really are.
I wanted to create a talk to deliver in synergy with the message of my new book. Which is to empower women and make them feel good about their sexuality, feel like they are doing the right things in the bedroom, whilst encouraging them to try new things in a way that’s accessible to all women, not just the ones who are super confident.
From the feedback I got I nailed it! I just need to decide what to call my talk. Any ideas?
In light of Brads alleged affair I was inspired to post…
Infidelity is sadly rife in many marriages and relationships today, and with the consistent reports of cheating celebrities and sports stars, it’s almost considered the norm.
Here are my top Five Tips to stop your husband straying:
1) Be aware of any changing dynamics in the relationship and make sure communication channels are open.
Are you growing apart? Has sex become infrequent or non-existent? Are you no longer physically attracted to your partner? Are you rejecting his advances? Is he rejecting yours? If you feel any of these things, your marriage is in the danger zone! Burying your head in the sand is not the way to deal with things. As long as you are aware and addressing issues as they arise, you should be able to keep your marriage on track. Always communicate in a positive, open way and be willing to compromise.
If he tries to address worries or concerns with the relationship, listen to him and don’t get defensive — otherwise he may not communicate in the future and just go and cheat.
The thing is that men are clumsy and they are not natural communicators like women, so cut him some slack and try not to take what he says literally. If he thinks you’ll fly off the handle he won’t bother again. Listen to him and try to find solutions for his concerns. That way he will be encouraged to communicate more often and will be less likely to cheat.
Communication is a two-way street and you both have to be open to it and encourage it — not avoid it.
2) Don’t forget the flirty little things that you can do even when the kids are home: little strokes, kisses, touches and squeezes.
These intimate gestures don’t take a lot of time and effort but they are the things that you will notice couples in love doing. They help to keep the connection, which in turn will minimize the risk of him straying.
Men are visual so don’t forget the teasing views you can give him; for example if he loves your breasts, try a low-cut top. Perhaps you’re in the kitchen and need to bend down and happen to be wearing a short dressing gown or nightdress. Flirting should be fun and exciting. If his eyes are on you, then he won’t be looking elsewhere!
3) If possible, be spontaneous with lovemaking and have fun exploring sexual fantasies and desires.
I do understand that it is difficult when you have children and busy lives, but if you can make things spontaneous when the moment arises it is priceless. He will be thinking about you at work and throughout his day. He’s unlikely to be noticing other women when he has spontaneous sex. Instead of making excuses when the rare opportunity arises, just go for it! It will probably make you feel better too. After all, headaches are cured with a good orgasm, so it’s not a valid excuse for avoiding sex. Spontaneous doesn’t mean you have to make it about him; it’s a huge turn on for men when you use their body for your own gratification.
Talk to your partner about his desires and fantasies and see if there’s a way you are comfortable accommodating them in some capacity. Experiment with your own fantasies.
4) Be confident in who you are as a person and know your values. Don’t allow yourself to be a push over. Demand respect.
Many guys cheat simply because they are allowed to. A serial cheat doesn’t respect women and never will. I know people want to stay together for their children, but what sort of example is set when the kids see their mother accepting infidelity in the marriage? Even if you think you are hiding things well, children pick up on the vibes. They know whether they have parents that are a team or if they despise or just put up with each other. If it is the latter, they see that there is no affection. Think about how your actions and choices will affect their future relationships.
5) Make sure that you make quality time for just the two of you.
Having children doesn’t mean that you should neglect your marriage; you both need to find time to work on your marriage and keep the connection. After all, your marriage is the foundation for your family — your roots, so to speak.
Try to find a way to have some sort of date night at least once every couple of weeks — a night where you get sitters or take the kids to stay with relatives and do something fun, relaxing or romantic just the two of you.
You both need quality time together and it’s imperative that you find it somehow. Don’t make excuses as to why you can’t, because if you think you can’t then you can’t. Be the glass-half-full person, realize the importance and think, “how can I make time?” Then you will start to come up with solutions.
I can help stop him cheating….
Check out my new sex tips Book 101 Sex Tips – A Guide To Pleasing Your Man, available now, get your signed copy from my Boutique, just click the tab on my home page 🙂
With the lack of sex education, teenage pregnancies and STD’s (sexually transmitted diseases) on the rise there has never been a more important time to raise awareness about sexual health.
If you are sexually active then you need to make sure you visit the clinic for G.U. Medicine and ensure you are not carrying any transmittable diseases. Firstly not all STD’s have symptoms, so don’t think you don’t have to go if you don’t have any. You can catch diseases both orally and via the penis, anus and vagina.
The simple solution is use condoms! Always. The only time it may be ok not to use them is if you are in a long term, relationship, you 100% trust your partner and you both get the all clear before you enter into sexual activity. However you can never 100% guarentee fidelity. The most important thing is to be aware of STD’s and periodically check yourself out at the clinic for peace of mind.
As a teenager I had regular promiscous sex from the ages of 15-20, and I was constantly back and forth to the clinic with Chlamydia. Childless at 41 I often wonder if I made myself infertile (which is one of the long term risks of STD’s).
I’m giving away FREE condoms with all orders from my Boutique in support of Sexual Health Week. Just click the Boutique tab on the menu to see what’s on offer.
The time has come! Finally my new sex tips book is out and available to buy from my Sexpert Boutique (and all good book shops :). However you may want to get your hands on a free one… and why wouldn’t you??
I’m giving away 5 signed copies, watch my video to find out what you need to do to be one of those 5 lucky people to get their hands on the very first copies of my book!
I’ve been sharing my tips and sex advice for years, via my first book The Girlfriend Experience, some via my blog and social media however I have now collated my tips on sexually pleasing men in one book. This book is all about how to please your man, can you guess what my next one will be? I haven’t forgotten you ladies don’t worry. I know men need guidance too on how to please women.
Inspired by The Great British Bake Off GBBO I mix cake, sex and tea, in this sex tips book with a difference.
Don’t put your relationship unecessarily at risk this festive season. There are things you can do to make sure your partner is thinking about you, and rushing home to see you rather than cavorting with the lady/guy they fancy in the office. Infidelity proof your relationship today so you don’t become one of the statistics for the New Year break up season. Find out how here…
I went to a very interesting seminar the other weekend by Andy Harrington, who got me thinking about ‘my why’. Why I do what I do, and what drives me to work as a Sexpert and help people with their relationships and sex lives?
It’s something I had never considered before. My background is I went from convent school, to glamour modelling, peep show and then escorting, then subsequently Author and Sexpert.
I learnt alot about men during my time as an escort and all about what men really want, however as a woman I understood why they weren’t getting what they wanted, because I know equally what women want, and it all boils down to connection, communication and compromise.
It is my mission to ensure everyone has a mutually satisfying love and sex life, so they avoid infidelity and being miserable in relationships.
Watch my video to find an exclusive offer available to you today!