Social anxiety is a huge problem for people nowadays. With the rise of social media people become familiar with hiding behind a screen and pseudonym. The irony is that social media is making us less social!
Online dating apps such as Plenty of Fish even offer to send a generic ‘Meet me’ message to prospective dates furthermore depersonalising the process.
It’s no wonder that many people are affected by this type of anxiety.
Find out if you are affected by social anxiety here..
- Do you worry about what you say to people?
- Does the thought of talking to strangers terrify you?
- Do you find yourself wondering if you’re boring someone when you’re talking to them?
- Do you feel like you’re being judged when you try and speak?
- Do you find you avoid eye contact or do it however you feel uncomfortable?
- Do you have low self-esteem?
- Do you break out in a sweat, feel sick, tremble or have heart palpitations in social situations?
If you answered yes to one or more of these questions then you may be affected by social anxiety.
So what should you do?
Here are some handy tips for dealing with social anxiety.
Ground yourself. You do this by taking a moment to bring awareness to all your senses. Firstly what you can see, fully absorb everything. Then concentrate on what you can hear, once you hear the minutiae of sounds, bring your attention to what you can smell. Lastly bring your attention to what you can feel. The ground beneath your feet, your clothes on your skin, your skin touching skin, the air on your face. Then imagine that you are growing roots right through to the core of the earth, and that they are grounding you. You can do this relatively quickly and discreetly wherever you are.
Positive affirmations. Your brain needs to be told something 5 times, with confidence for your unconscious mind to accept the belief is reality. So say to yourself either out loud if you’re alone, or in your mind if you’re in public… Say “I am a confident, positive, assertive, good person.” Or any positive adjectives you want to instil, 5 times with conviction. Feel what it would feel like if it were the truth, and it will become your new truth.
Concentrate on your breath. Try to elongate the breath and slow it right down. Breath in fully. Feel your tummy rising filling with air and fill yourself right up with air to your throat, then breathe out slowly and when you think you have breathed out as much as you can, just give that little extra expel to get that last little bit out. Regulating your breathing will help calm you down and feel less anxious.
And of course if you want to work with me, we can look at your issue in much more depth and I can give you one to one bespoke Hypnotherapy.
My clients go from feeling terrified of talking to people to approaching complete strangers confidently and comfortably. I work ‘out in the field’ with people so they can utilise the skills they have learnt in a real environment.
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