Check out this weeks Reveal for my Sexpert advice on Katie Price and Kieran Haylers relationship.
Infidelity is challenging for any relationship, however add in being betrayed by your two best friends and finding out your partner has a sex addiction, and that infidelity is magnified to a level to cause maximum emotional turmoil.
It’s not surprising that Katie and Kieran’s relationship hasn’t fully recovered from both of these challenging situations. A healthy relationship is based on trust, and without that you are left with various levels of a toxic relationship. By toxic I mean one that is emotionally damaging to everyone in it.
Kieran is still being punished for his behaviour, (however lets remember that most couples wouldn’t survive this level of betrayal). Katie is a fighter and she wants to fix things and make them right, she doesn’t want another relationship to fail. This is a feeling myself and many will relate to, especially those like Katie who are very successful in so many other areas of their lives.
The power balance has always been out of synch with Katie playing the dominant role from the beginning (which unconsciously many successful women do), and guys can feel intimidated and emasculated by this. His sex addiction and messing around with her best friends gave him a feeling of being in control, feeling powerful whilst offering a temporary release from the pressure of trying to live up to the percieved expectations of Katie and trying to maintain some of his masculinity.
Neither party is getting their needs met currently, so to move forwards they have to communicate their needs candidly, support each other and unite, and this needs to be done behind closed doors.
People want to be around people that make them feel good, so if Kieran either has his own insecurities and/or feels like Katie makes him feel not good enough, he will be withdrawing more and more into himself if he feels like he has no one to talk to. I imagine that he is feeling quite lonely right now. Katie’s outlet is to publically talk about their sex life and her distrust in her talks, interviews and books, however he has no outlet for his feelings. Every time Katie talks about Kieran’s infidelity, she relives, reaffirms it and this keeps the anger alive and very much in the present.
The problem is to move forwards she has to fully and wholly forgive him and let go, and she’s not ready to do that yet, and may never be ready to.
True forgiveness is key, combined with compassion and love. I really wish them both the very best.